Have you said Yes to something, then wished you said No and felt cranky and resentful?
Then I’d be horrified at the anger and resentment I was feeling TOWARDS PEOPLE I LOVE (eek!) and would try to drown the “bad” feelings out with a glass or two or five of dry white.
Boundary setting can be scary, I get that. But with practice it can be done with love & grace for both you and the other person.
I think there are two important points here:
I did a Live today about exactly this. Have a watch (it’s only 6 minutes long). I’d love to know what you think.
PS if you'd like to dig a bit deeper into this, I can highly recommend Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab.